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Today, begins a week long celebration of marriage. In February from the 7th-12th, the National Marriage Week website has free resources for how to strengthen your marriage.
This short and important tip I got from the website: www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org
Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: When you are in conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said "disrespected." 72% of the women said "unloved."
Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict. For example, when a woman feels unloved during conflict, her natural reaction is to respond disrespectfully.
And when a husband feels disrespected during conflict, his reaction is to respond unlovingly. We call this the Crazy Cycle: "Without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love."
The message the wife is trying to send in her negative reaction (criticism/contempt) is, "I don't feel loved by you right now." The message the husband hears is, "I don't respect you, buster, unless you change immediately." When he reacts either in anger or by stonewalling, the message the wife hears again is, "I don't love you."
Things get crazy because this feeds itself. Her disrespect feeds his lack of love. His unloving reactions feed her disrespect. Round and round it goes.
The good news is that this cycle can be broken. Isn't this exciting? What couples want is love and respect, and the key to long-term marriages is the attitude and action of love and respect. Quoted from www.loveandrespect.com
Now, how does Yandy.com fit into all of this National Marriage Week business?
Well, I think that having a fun, adventurous outfit for guys and gals to surprise their spouse with can keep things interesting as the years of marriage grow.
So meet Yandy.com!
Today, begins a week long celebration of marriage. In February from the 7th-12th, the National Marriage Week website has free resources for how to strengthen your marriage.
This short and important tip I got from the website: www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org
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Tips about the Power of Love and Respect
Dr. Emerson EggerichsResearch reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: When you are in conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said "disrespected." 72% of the women said "unloved."
Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict. For example, when a woman feels unloved during conflict, her natural reaction is to respond disrespectfully.
And when a husband feels disrespected during conflict, his reaction is to respond unlovingly. We call this the Crazy Cycle: "Without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love."
The message the wife is trying to send in her negative reaction (criticism/contempt) is, "I don't feel loved by you right now." The message the husband hears is, "I don't respect you, buster, unless you change immediately." When he reacts either in anger or by stonewalling, the message the wife hears again is, "I don't love you."
Things get crazy because this feeds itself. Her disrespect feeds his lack of love. His unloving reactions feed her disrespect. Round and round it goes.
The good news is that this cycle can be broken. Isn't this exciting? What couples want is love and respect, and the key to long-term marriages is the attitude and action of love and respect. Quoted from www.loveandrespect.com
Now, how does Yandy.com fit into all of this National Marriage Week business?
Well, I think that having a fun, adventurous outfit for guys and gals to surprise their spouse with can keep things interesting as the years of marriage grow.
So meet Yandy.com!


